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I share with you some work I did yesterday on my own coaching call.  I decided to work on the self-judgment and belief that I am \u201cbad\u201d at body awareness and feeling my emotions through my body. My coach challenged me to write a recipe on how someone else can create the same situation in their life. Here\u2019s my recipe:<\/p>\n

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  1. Be really fucking hard on yourself<\/li>\n
  2. Don\u2019t give the same compassion to yourself that you give to others<\/li>\n
  3. Make sure you blame your parents for fighting and forcing you to numb out your feelings in order for you to keep your sanity<\/li>\n
  4. Be sure to feel helpless<\/li>\n
  5. Believe there\u2019s nothing that you can do about it<\/li>\n
  6. Ignore all evidence to the contrary such as when you were overwhelmed with sadness when your mom was sick in the hospital and dies and you were a freakin\u2019 puddle of grief, tears, and sadness. Also ignore when you are feeling your heart fill up with gratitude when observing your three daughters laugh together and\/or feeling the joy in your belly when playing games with friends and\/or feel your whole body shake with ecstasy when making love to your wife<\/li>\n
  7. Believe your childhood wounds are an obstacle as opposed to a gift<\/li>\n
  8. Believe you are broken<\/li>\n
  9. Make sure to gain significance by telling yourself (and anybody else) the story that you are dead inside<\/li>\n
  10. Be sure to complain about it as if it\u2019s a problem as opposed to knowing that everything is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to be<\/li>\n
  11. Make sure that when you do feel the beginning stages of feeling moved\/hear your voice shake\/feel the lump in your throat begin to well-up- to shut that shit down immediately by making a joke or changing the subject instead of breathing<\/li>\n
  12. Be sure to be closed off to any possibility of feeling moved<\/li>\n
  13. Make sure to believe that your magician (head) energy in much more important than your lover (heart) energy<\/li>\n
  14. Make sure you believe that vulnerability is a weakness<\/li>\n
  15. Be sure to not walk your talk- continue to read books and not practice it and instead tell other people how to do it<\/li>\n
  16. Make sure to believe that your ego is protecting you from harm<\/li>\n
  17. Be sure to believe that this is a problem<\/li>\n
  18. And for goodness sake- remain in your head at all costs!!!!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    I share with you some work I did yesterday on my own coaching call.  I decided to work on the self-judgment and belief that I am \u201cbad\u201d at body awareness and feeling my emotions through my body. My coach challenged me to write a recipe on how someone else can create the same situation in their life. Here\u2019s my recipe: … <\/p>\n

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