{"id":64,"date":"2018-07-01T14:21:23","date_gmt":"2018-07-01T14:21:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/toddadamscoaching.com\/2018\/07\/01\/white-male-privilege-toxic-masculinity\/"},"modified":"2019-07-07T20:57:29","modified_gmt":"2019-07-07T20:57:29","slug":"white-male-privilege-toxic-masculinity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/toddadamscoaching.com\/2018\/07\/01\/white-male-privilege-toxic-masculinity\/","title":{"rendered":"White Male Privilege & Toxic Masculinity"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhite male privilege\u201d and \u201ctoxic masculinity\u201d seems to be brought up now more than ever.  Many men I know take offense to these terms.  I don\u2019t because I believe it\u2019s true now and has been true for a very long time.  I have received opportunities in this world that other minorities (females, LGBTQ, race, religion, etc.) have not.  Does this mean my life has been all roses, or I haven\u2019t had struggles, or that I have not worked hard in my life?  Of course not- but I believe I\u2019ve been given an inherent advantage over most because God\/universe made me straight and white.  I give talks to groups of men on occasion and state that if you turn on the news and see whatever event they happened to be covering that it\u2019s most likely a result toxic masculinity.  I receive quite a bit of push back from some men challenging me to say can\u2019t I rename this as \u201ctoxic behavior\u201d instead.  No I can\u2019t.  I believe our collective male egos (including mine) are so fragile that we don\u2019t even want to settle into the discomfort of the idea of having something in our society be called \u201ctoxic masculinity\u201d or \u201cwhite male privilege\u201d.  I encourage any man who does take offense to this term to look inward and see why this is so triggering.  Can you find examples in your life where an experience had nothing to do with \u201ctoxic masculinity\u201d or \u201cwhite male privilege\u201d?  I\u2019m sure you can.  But most non-white straight males can come up with many more than we can. And this is about equality and things aren’t close to equal right now.<\/p>\n

So is this about shaming ourselves?  Of course not.  But it is about awareness and the only way to have this awareness is be honest and talk to other non-white\/straight males and ask them their experiences.  Why don\u2019t we as men do more of this?  It\u2019s because we have less to gain.  We already are in a position of power and although we have daughters and sisters and have come through a woman when we showed up in this world- we will never know their experience of navigating through this world.  But if we\u2019re going to make any progress- we have to play a more active role and sadly I once again see the women taking charge.  I went to a Families Belong Together rally in Downers Grove yesterday.  Guess who dominated the attendance?  It was the women.  I certainly didn\u2019t have it on my calendar.  My wife did and she invited me to go and I gladly went.  So for now- I am going to at least join hands with my wife doing what I can to make this world a better place.  Hopefully someday soon I\u2019ll find myself taking the lead and ask her to join me because it\u2019s too much to ask the minorities to do this by themselves- they feel less safe, I don\u2019t.  We can get there further faster if we as white straight men take the lead on the injustices in this world.<\/p>\n

So if you are man and any of this resonates with you, I offer two resources to put thoughts into action:  one is a tongue in cheek satire of what it\u2019s like to be a woman offered by Saturday Night Live.  It\u2019s called \u201cWelcome To Hell\u201d<\/a> Every woman that I have shown this to always responds the same way- they say,  \u201cYup that\u2019s about right.\u201d  The other is a blog I found that is a list of 100 Easy Ways to Make Women’s Lives More Bearable<\/a><\/p>\n

Keep truckin\u2019<\/p>\n

Todd<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhite male privilege\u201d and \u201ctoxic masculinity\u201d seems to be brought up now more than ever.  Many men I know take offense to these terms.  I don\u2019t because I believe it\u2019s true now and has been true for a very long time.  I have received opportunities in this world that other minorities (females, LGBTQ, race, religion, etc.) have not.  Does this … <\/p>\n

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