{"id":68,"date":"2017-04-11T02:07:36","date_gmt":"2017-04-11T02:07:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/toddadamscoaching.com\/2017\/04\/10\/straight-men-showing-pda\/"},"modified":"2019-07-07T21:06:47","modified_gmt":"2019-07-07T21:06:47","slug":"straight-men-showing-pda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/toddadamscoaching.com\/2017\/04\/11\/straight-men-showing-pda\/","title":{"rendered":"Straight men showing PDA?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In this video, straight Dutch men are holding hands in public in response to the gay couple who were physically attacked for a public display of affection&#8230;.<\/p>\n<div class=\"x-embed x-is-unknown x-is-unknown\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1080\" height=\"810\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ezPXzGtXhVc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p>I find this powerful and moving, and I would love to see more examples of this kind of solidarity in our own country.<\/p>\n<p>Right now it seems the only acceptable reason for straight men to touch each other is a sporting event. I play basketball and if you\u2019re not contacting the man you are guarding, you are doing it wrong. Or sometimes you\u2019ll see the captains of a football team go out for the coin-flip while holding hands as a symbol of teamwork and support for one another. We make this OK because it\u2019s in the spirit of competition.<\/p>\n<p>Dads have permission to show physical affection toward sons and other family members, but other than that, I rarely see examples of men being outwardly affectionate. Even on the rare occasion that I see guys hug, it is usually with the \u201carmor\u201d on &#8211; you know, the hug where we put one shoulder crisscrossing into the other man\u2019s opposite shoulder \u2013 it\u2019s brief, and it\u2019s definitely not vulnerable. We\u2019re kind of saying \u201cI\u2019ll do this, but I\u2019m not going to feel any emotion with you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>While this is better than nothing, we have a long way to go, and if straight male PDA\u2019s could become the norm as opposed to the exception, it may offer two things:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>It would be much more difficult to identify or target a gay couple because demonstrations of affection would be common and normalized.<\/li>\n<li>It would also give men what we need to live healthy and connected lives \u2013 authentic and supportive relationships with other men.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>How amazing would it be if we, as American men, were able to connect to each other in such a real and meaningful way? I don\u2019t think it would eradicate gay-bashing overnight, but I\u2019m guessing it would get us closer to acceptance and a greater understanding of what it means to love.<\/p>\n<p>I invite myself and every other straight man to stand with our gay brothers by stepping outside of our societally driven comfort zone and learn from the Dutch. They are demonstrating what solidarity means, and they are showing us what the true meaning of the mature masculine.<\/p>\n<p><em>Todd is an&nbsp;advocate for men supporting healthy masculinity, conscious relationships, and prosperous careers. For six years he has co-hosted&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/zenparentingradio.com\/\"><em>Zen Parenting Radio<\/em><\/a><em>, a top-ten kids and family podcast on iTunes, and&nbsp;co-founded&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/thetribemensgroup.com\/\"><em>The Tribe Men\u2019s Group<\/em><\/a><em>&nbsp;Todd is a member of&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/mankindproject.org\/\"><em>The Mankind Project,<\/em><\/a><em>&nbsp;a staff member for the&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/chicago.mkp.org\/gobig\"><em>New Warrior Training Adventure<\/em><\/a><em>.&nbsp; Todd received his life coach certification&nbsp;through the&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/rmtcenter.com\/certification-programs\/core-100\/\"><em>Tony Robbins Core 100 Life Coaching Program<\/em><\/a><em>, and is a certified instructor for the&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.heartmath.org\/\"><em>Institute of Heartmath<\/em><\/a><em>&nbsp;where he&nbsp;was trained in stress reduction and relaxation.&nbsp;Together with his wife Cathy they three daughters ages 9, 12, &amp; 14.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this video, straight Dutch men are holding hands in public in response to the gay couple who were physically attacked for a public display of affection&#8230;. 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