Response to the Gillette Commercial

There’s a been quite a bit of on-line dialogue in the last 24 hours regarding the new Gillette commercial “We Believe: The Best Men Can Be” If you haven’t seen it, please take a look here. It’s been viewed over 5 million times and the response has been all over the board. Over 100,000 people have given it a thumbs up in appreciation, yet over 400,000 people have given it a thumbs down. I’m intrigued by the quantity and severity of some of the negative responses/comments about this commercial. I find this commercial to be inspiring because it illustrates that we men can collectively be better tomorrow than we are today. Isn’t that the goal of all people?

Don’t Give Your Wife A Break

Yesterday a friend of mine was looking for support regarding an argument he recently had with his wife. The story he shared was similar to experiences I’ve had with my wife. “I worked in the backyard and cleaned out the garage for four hours on Saturday and she seemed pissed about it.” he said, “What was she doing?” I replied …

White Male Privilege & Toxic Masculinity

“White male privilege” and “toxic masculinity” seems to be brought up now more than ever.  Many men I know take offense to these terms.  I don’t because I believe it’s true now and has been true for a very long time.  I have received opportunities in this world that other minorities (females, LGBTQ, race, religion, etc.) have not.  Does this …

Wanted: White Men…

…to step into the mature masculine. I define this as the capacity to be both strong and gentle, competitive and compassionate and the wisdom to know which energy to call on at any particular moment. Some men have recently criticized me for using the term “toxic masculinity” to describe the events that make our news cycle: Vegas shooter, Harvey Weinstein, …

Calling All Complacent White Straight Males

I am complacent when it comes to the tragedies that fill up my newsfeed – Charlottesville and North Korea, just to name a few. When I hear bad news, I pause for a moment and think to myself, “I’m scared” or “That’s horrible”, then I then go back to my business – working, parenting, being the best husband I can …

Straight men showing PDA?

In this video, straight Dutch men are holding hands in public in response to the gay couple who were physically attacked for a public display of affection…. I find this powerful and moving, and I would love to see more examples of this kind of solidarity in our own country. Right now it seems the only acceptable reason for straight …

Parental Amnesia

The following is a short list off the top of my head of some personal bad decision making from my adolescence. @ 5 years old I played “doctor” with a girl neighbor across the street engaging in a session of “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine.” @ 6 years old I had physical fights with my older …

Don’t Be A Dick

I struggle with the writing process. My mind works in the form of bullet points as opposed to long-form which is what prohibits me from saying what I want to say. But I feel I have ideas of value to share. (My English teachers always told me never to start a sentence with a preposition like “but”, but she’s not …

What is “Men’s Work?”

I have been doing a weekly podcast with my wife Cathy called Zen Parenting Radio for the last 6 years. The podcast is not so much about parenting, instead it’s mostly about self-awareness. Typically it’s simply the two of us on the podcast, but every now and again we invite guests to be interviewed. This week we invited two leaders of MKP to explaining what MKP is all about.

11 Mistakes Your Marriage Needs You to Stop Making

I’m 11 years into my marriage and I don’t pretend to be an expert. However, I know my foundation is solid and will endure the test of time. Mostly because when I screw up, I do my best to learn and grow. Marriage is not easy. I want mine to be one for the ages, and for that to happen, …